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From internal control officer to embracing bisexuality: My unforgettable story



After completing my education, I worked as an Internal Control Officer at P&G (Procter & Gamble) from March 2014 to 2019. Prior to that, I was employed at Alma Stores LTD in late 2013. In 2015, I gained admission to the National Open University of Nigeria to study Communications Technology. Unfortunately, due to financial difficulties, I had to drop out in 2016.

During my journey of self-discovery, I came to terms with my bisexuality. I have experienced love and relationships with both men and women, each adding a unique color to my life. However, societal expectations and labels have often felt restrictive and suffocating.

I experienced a significant loss in my life when my mother passed away on June 22, 2002, while I was still in high school. As a result, I had to move to a boarding school that same year. It was there that I met Samuel Oladele, a senior who became a supportive figure in my life.

Samuel always stood up for me when I was bullied and provided for me when I needed groceries. In October 2004, Samuel invited me to his room as a respected senior. Over time, our relationship became romantic, and I found myself unable to detach from it until I graduated from high school in 2007.

One evening on April 4th, 2010, as the city lights flickered like distant stars, a carnival party was in full swing on the next street. Curiosity pulled me towards the lively atmosphere, and amidst the crowd, I spotted Funmilayo, a fellow church member.

Despite our familiarity, I approached her with a soft smile, taking her hand in mine. Without hesitation, I mustered the courage to ask her out, and to my delight, she said yes. There was an undeniable connection between us, and together, we embarked on a love story without limits.

However, my involvement with Samuel continued to complicate matters. Fast-forward to 2016, when I unexpectedly encountered Samuel at the bus station.

Nervously, he inquired about Funmilayo, and fearing his reaction, I denied any knowledge of her. But then, he revealed a photo of Funmilayo kissing someone else. It became evident that he had discovered my affair with her. At that moment, something shifted between us.

We moved closer, sharing laughter and tears, as Samuel reminded me of our unwavering support for each other through countless challenges.In the quiet moments that followed, a new feeling began to blossom within our shared bond. It was a mixture of familiarity, warmth, and genuine affection.

My heart, once a canvas of past loves, now painted a new colour—one that I couldn’t quite define. It blended the comfort of old friendship and love with the excitement of newfound affection, and it pointed unmistakably towards Samuel.

The realisation was both startling and beautiful. I had never considered that our bisexuality could lead us to love someone who had been by our side all along. Love, it seemed, was full of surprises.However, our journey took an unexpected turn when we decided to seek privacy in a hotel in Lagos.

Unknowingly to us, someone had reported our same-sex relationship to the authorities, and the police surrounded the hotel.

In a desperate attempt to avoid arrest, I managed to escape through a window, while Samuel was unfortunately shot in the leg. He was immediately rushed to the hospital for medical attention. I had a gay relationship with Samuel, who later reported him to the police.

The police declared me wanted, so I fled to Osun State and later got married to Oluwadamilola. Samuel still came after us and threatened us with a firearm, so I took Oluwadamilola back to her family and then I applied for a Canadian visa.

My visa was approved, that was how I escaped from my friend that almost ruined my life.

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From Nigeria to Australia: A journey of resilience and reinvention



Leaving Nigeria behind was a monumental decision, one that altered the course of my life forever. Even with a comfortable salary and years under my belt, I took the leap, knowing that the grass might just be greener elsewhere.

The initial months in Australia were anything but easy. Despite my efforts to secure an accounting job, rejection letters flooded my inbox, highlighting my lack of Australian experience and certifications. It was a tough pill to swallow, especially for someone accustomed to professional success.

Yet, amid the turmoil, my wife emerged as my unwavering rock, shouldering our financial burdens single-handedly. As an Igbo man, the notion of relying on my wife for sustenance struck at the core of my identity, nearly plunging me into despair.

Determined not to succumb to defeat, I pivoted my approach. Embracing versatility, I enrolled in a forklift training program, swiftly obtaining my license. But I didn’t stop there. Armed with a newfound resolve, I pursued certifications in disability support work, expanding my skill set exponentially.

Transitioning to warehouse employment was a pragmatic move, albeit temporary. While it didn’t fulfill my ultimate career aspirations, it provided stability in uncertain times. In Australia, opportunities abound for individuals of all ages, fostering a culture of inclusivity and productivity.

However, amidst the allure of order and security, nostalgia for Nigeria lingered. The opulent displays of authority, once commonplace, were replaced by a more egalitarian ethos. Here, respect for the law reigned supreme, contrasting sharply with the pervasive corruption back home.

Health and well-being underwent a remarkable transformation as well. Escaping the clutches of recurrent malaria, I marveled at the absence of illness in my new environment. Even my children thrived academically, flourishing in a system that prioritised excellence.

In hindsight, the decision to migrate was unequivocally the right one. Despite the trials and tribulations, the dividends reaped in terms of quality of life and financial stability outweighed any hardships endured.

As I reflect on my journey, I’m acutely aware of the toll migration can exact on familial bonds. The specter of divorce looms ominously, a testament to the complex interplay of cultural adaptation and interpersonal dynamics.

My story serves as a testament to the transformative power of resilience and reinvention. For those contemplating a similar path, heed this advice: seize the opportunity for a better life, but tread carefully, for the road ahead is fraught with challenges and unforeseen consequences.

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Finding hope in despair: Nancy’s story of perseverance and redemption



In the wake of her father’s untimely demise when she was just nine years old, Nancy’s life took a challenging turn.

Her mother, facing financial hardships, struggled to pay for Nancy’s education, eventually leading her to enroll in a public school in Alimosho Local Government.

Despite the adversity, Nancy remained diligent, excelling in her studies throughout her academic journey.

Her determination and hard work paid off as she secured admission to the prestigious University of Ilorin to pursue a degree in Medicine & Surgery.

However, the financial burden remained a constant obstacle, with her single mother barely able to make ends meet. Undeterred, Nancy took matters into her own hands, juggling multiple jobs and even resorting to borrowing loans to fund her education.

Tragedy struck again during Nancy’s final year at medical school with the passing of her beloved mother, leaving her devastated.

Despite the emotional turmoil, Nancy persevered, determined to complete her education. It was during this challenging time that she crossed paths with Daniel, who offered to support her financially.

Initially grateful for Daniel’s assistance, Nancy soon found herself trapped in a toxic relationship. Daniel’s controlling behavior escalated, and Nancy found herself coerced into unwanted physical intimacy.

Despite the turmoil, Nancy completed her studies and returned to Lagos to start afresh.

Her resilience and determination caught the attention of Mr. Nnamdi, who saw beyond her past hardships and recognised her potential.

Initially hesitant to trust again, Nancy eventually opened her heart to Mr. Nnamdi, and their relationship blossomed into marriage.

Today, Nancy’s story serves as a testament to the power of perseverance and resilience in the face of adversity.

From humble beginnings to owning her businesses and three cars, Nancy’s journey is a true inspiration, proving that with grit and determination, one can overcome even the greatest of challenges.

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From mockery to miracles: Bukola’s story of redemption



Bukola is a woman of unwavering faith. She has been married to her loving husband, Ade, for ten years. Their marriage was built on a foundation of love, trust, and most importantly, their shared belief in God.

Living in the bustling neighbourhood of Sango in Ogun State, Bukola’s faith was put to the test when she became the target of bullying and harsh criticism from her peers. They mocked her for her unwavering faith, calling her old-fashioned, barren and out of touch with modern society.

Many times, she was mocked for not having children of her own when she and her husband celebrated her tenth anniversary. With a symbol of hope and belief in God, she was steadfast in her prayer every moment.

Despite the hurtful words and negative energy surrounding her, Bukola remained steadfast in her beliefs. She found solace in prayer and sought strength from her faith to rise above the challenges she faced.

Some of her close relatives at some point in time even introduced her to herbalists and fake prophets of all sorts, but she put all her hope and trust in God.

One day, as Bukola was walking home from the market, a group of women from her neighbourhood surrounded her, hurling insults and questioning her devotion to God. Instead of retaliating, Bukola chose to respond with kindness and grace. She shared her testimony of how God had guided her through the darkest moments of her life and how her faith had sustained her through it all.

Her words struck a chord with the women, and they were moved by Bukola’s unwavering faith and inner strength.

After some years, she gave birth to Ayomide, her first at age 45, in the tenth year of her marriage with Ade. Slowly but surely, the same women who had once ridiculed her began to seek her counsel and guidance, drawn to the peace and serenity that radiated from Bukola’s spirit.

Over time, Bukola’s kindness and faith transformed the hearts of those around her. The neighbourhood that had once been filled with negativity and gossip was now a place of unity and support, all thanks to Bukola’s unwavering belief in God and her ability to forgive those who had wronged her.

As the years went by, Bukola’s influence continued to grow, and she became a beacon of hope and inspiration in her community. Her story of resilience and faith spread far and wide, touching the lives of many who needed a guiding light in their darkest hours.

Through it all, Bukola remained humble, giving all glory to God for the strength and wisdom that had carried her through the storm. And in the end, she emerged not only as a survivor but as a shining example of the power of faith, love, and forgiveness.

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