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From internal control officer to embracing bisexuality: My unforgettable story

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After completing my education, I worked as an Internal Control Officer at P&G (Procter & Gamble) from March 2014 to 2019. Prior to that, I was employed at Alma Stores LTD in late 2013. In 2015, I gained admission to the National Open University of Nigeria to study Communications Technology. Unfortunately, due to financial difficulties, I had to drop out in 2016.

During my journey of self-discovery, I came to terms with my bisexuality. I have experienced love and relationships with both men and women, each adding a unique color to my life. However, societal expectations and labels have often felt restrictive and suffocating.

I experienced a significant loss in my life when my mother passed away on June 22, 2002, while I was still in high school. As a result, I had to move to a boarding school that same year. It was there that I met Samuel Oladele, a senior who became a supportive figure in my life.

Samuel always stood up for me when I was bullied and provided for me when I needed groceries. In October 2004, Samuel invited me to his room as a respected senior. Over time, our relationship became romantic, and I found myself unable to detach from it until I graduated from high school in 2007.

One evening on April 4th, 2010, as the city lights flickered like distant stars, a carnival party was in full swing on the next street. Curiosity pulled me towards the lively atmosphere, and amidst the crowd, I spotted Funmilayo, a fellow church member.

Despite our familiarity, I approached her with a soft smile, taking her hand in mine. Without hesitation, I mustered the courage to ask her out, and to my delight, she said yes. There was an undeniable connection between us, and together, we embarked on a love story without limits.

However, my involvement with Samuel continued to complicate matters. Fast-forward to 2016, when I unexpectedly encountered Samuel at the bus station.

Nervously, he inquired about Funmilayo, and fearing his reaction, I denied any knowledge of her. But then, he revealed a photo of Funmilayo kissing someone else. It became evident that he had discovered my affair with her. At that moment, something shifted between us.

We moved closer, sharing laughter and tears, as Samuel reminded me of our unwavering support for each other through countless challenges.In the quiet moments that followed, a new feeling began to blossom within our shared bond. It was a mixture of familiarity, warmth, and genuine affection.

My heart, once a canvas of past loves, now painted a new colour—one that I couldn’t quite define. It blended the comfort of old friendship and love with the excitement of newfound affection, and it pointed unmistakably towards Samuel.

The realisation was both startling and beautiful. I had never considered that our bisexuality could lead us to love someone who had been by our side all along. Love, it seemed, was full of surprises.However, our journey took an unexpected turn when we decided to seek privacy in a hotel in Lagos.

Unknowingly to us, someone had reported our same-sex relationship to the authorities, and the police surrounded the hotel.

In a desperate attempt to avoid arrest, I managed to escape through a window, while Samuel was unfortunately shot in the leg. He was immediately rushed to the hospital for medical attention. I had a gay relationship with Samuel, who later reported him to the police.

The police declared me wanted, so I fled to Osun State and later got married to Oluwadamilola. Samuel still came after us and threatened us with a firearm, so I took Oluwadamilola back to her family and then I applied for a Canadian visa.

My visa was approved, that was how I escaped from my friend that almost ruined my life.

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A Pastor’s story of redemption: How infidelity unveiled hidden truths and restored harmony

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In a community in Ogun State, a Pastor named Adeyemi and his banker wife embarked on a journey fraught with challenges, yet fueled by love and redemption.

As the dawn broke each day, Adeyemi’s wife, dedicated to her banking career, would immerse herself in work, leaving behind a trail of neglect in her household duties and marital intimacy.

Despite the Pastor’s pleas for affection, his wife remained steadfast in her distance, citing the demands of her profession.

In their midst stood a young house help, a silent witness to their domestic turmoil.

In a moment of vulnerability, Adeyemi confided in her, revealing the void in his marriage. Moved by empathy, the house help offered solace, igniting a clandestine affair.

One fateful day, fate intervened as Adeyemi’s wife returned home unexpectedly, stumbling upon the clandestine rendezvous.

Shocked and aggrieved, she swiftly dismissed the house help, confronting her husband with betrayal writ large.

In the aftermath of this revelation, a reckoning ensued. Stripped bare of pretense, husband and wife confronted their demons, laying bare the fractures in their union.

In an exchange, forgiveness blossomed, as each acknowledged their role in the unraveling of their marriage.

From the ashes of deceit arose a newfound commitment, as husband and wife embarked on a journey of reconciliation.

With humility and grace, they nurtured their bond, fostering a home filled with love, understanding, and mutual respect.

Their story, shrouded in secrecy, emphasised the resilience of the human spirit and the transformative power of forgiveness.

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From Okada rider to first-class graduate: Hezekiah’s inspiring journey

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Toyinbo Hezekiah’s story is one of determination and resilience. Toyinbo is 30 years old, he hails from Igude village in Ogun State, Nigeria.

Despite the weight of financial burden and the grind of unconventional work, Toyinbo clings steadfastly to a singular dream: the pursuit of higher education. With each brick laid and every mile traversed on his motorcycle, Toyinbo’s determination burns brighter, illuminating the path towards his ultimate goal – to grasp the coveted title of graduate.

When he started his degree in Animal Breeding and Genetics at the Federal University of Agriculture, Abeokuta, he didn’t aim for top grades. His main goal was to earn his degree.

However, his journey took an unexpected turn when he achieved a GPA of 5.0 in his third year. This success opened his eyes to the possibility of graduating with first-class honors.

Throughout his academic journey, Toyinbo’s passion for learning never wavered. From excelling in primary school to navigating challenges in secondary school, he remained focused on his goals. Despite growing up in a farming-focused village where education wasn’t emphasised, Toyinbo’s determination to succeed propelled him forward.

During his university years, Toyinbo faced numerous challenges, including financial hardships and balancing work with studies. While his classmates relied on support from family and friends, Toyinbo had to borrow money to pay for his exams and immediately start working to repay his debts.

Despite these obstacles, Toyinbo’s dedication paid off. He graduated as the top student in his department with a first-class honours degree, achieving a remarkable GPA of 4.55.

However, the recognition he received during convocation was minimal, leaving him feeling unsatisfied.

Reflecting on his journey, Toyinbo remains optimistic about the future. He has already immersed himself in farm work, rearing various breeds of chickens and providing free consultation to aspiring farmers.

His ultimate goal is to further his education and become a professor specializing in animal science and research.

When asked about his advice for underprivileged individuals aspiring to continue their studies, Toyinbo emphasised taking initiative and starting with what they have. He believes that with determination and trustworthiness, anyone can change their story, just as he did.

Toyinbo’s story is didactical, as it emphasises the need for perseverance and hard work, even the most unlikely dreams can become a reality.

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From Nigeria to Australia: A journey of resilience and reinvention

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Leaving Nigeria behind was a monumental decision, one that altered the course of my life forever. Even with a comfortable salary and years under my belt, I took the leap, knowing that the grass might just be greener elsewhere.

The initial months in Australia were anything but easy. Despite my efforts to secure an accounting job, rejection letters flooded my inbox, highlighting my lack of Australian experience and certifications. It was a tough pill to swallow, especially for someone accustomed to professional success.

Yet, amid the turmoil, my wife emerged as my unwavering rock, shouldering our financial burdens single-handedly. As an Igbo man, the notion of relying on my wife for sustenance struck at the core of my identity, nearly plunging me into despair.

Determined not to succumb to defeat, I pivoted my approach. Embracing versatility, I enrolled in a forklift training program, swiftly obtaining my license. But I didn’t stop there. Armed with a newfound resolve, I pursued certifications in disability support work, expanding my skill set exponentially.

Transitioning to warehouse employment was a pragmatic move, albeit temporary. While it didn’t fulfill my ultimate career aspirations, it provided stability in uncertain times. In Australia, opportunities abound for individuals of all ages, fostering a culture of inclusivity and productivity.

However, amidst the allure of order and security, nostalgia for Nigeria lingered. The opulent displays of authority, once commonplace, were replaced by a more egalitarian ethos. Here, respect for the law reigned supreme, contrasting sharply with the pervasive corruption back home.

Health and well-being underwent a remarkable transformation as well. Escaping the clutches of recurrent malaria, I marveled at the absence of illness in my new environment. Even my children thrived academically, flourishing in a system that prioritised excellence.

In hindsight, the decision to migrate was unequivocally the right one. Despite the trials and tribulations, the dividends reaped in terms of quality of life and financial stability outweighed any hardships endured.

As I reflect on my journey, I’m acutely aware of the toll migration can exact on familial bonds. The specter of divorce looms ominously, a testament to the complex interplay of cultural adaptation and interpersonal dynamics.

My story serves as a testament to the transformative power of resilience and reinvention. For those contemplating a similar path, heed this advice: seize the opportunity for a better life, but tread carefully, for the road ahead is fraught with challenges and unforeseen consequences.

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