From internal control officer to embracing bisexuality: My unforgettable story

After completing my education, I worked as an Internal Control Officer at P&G (Procter & Gamble) from March 2014 to 2019. Prior to that, I was employed at Alma Stores LTD in late 2013. In 2015, I gained admission to the National Open University of Nigeria to study Communications Technology. Unfortunately, due to financial difficulties, I had to drop out in 2016.

During my journey of self-discovery, I came to terms with my bisexuality. I have experienced love and relationships with both men and women, each adding a unique color to my life. However, societal expectations and labels have often felt restrictive and suffocating.

I experienced a significant loss in my life when my mother passed away on June 22, 2002, while I was still in high school. As a result, I had to move to a boarding school that same year. It was there that I met Samuel Oladele, a senior who became a supportive figure in my life.

Samuel always stood up for me when I was bullied and provided for me when I needed groceries. In October 2004, Samuel invited me to his room as a respected senior. Over time, our relationship became romantic, and I found myself unable to detach from it until I graduated from high school in 2007.

One evening on April 4th, 2010, as the city lights flickered like distant stars, a carnival party was in full swing on the next street. Curiosity pulled me towards the lively atmosphere, and amidst the crowd, I spotted Funmilayo, a fellow church member.

Despite our familiarity, I approached her with a soft smile, taking her hand in mine. Without hesitation, I mustered the courage to ask her out, and to my delight, she said yes. There was an undeniable connection between us, and together, we embarked on a love story without limits.

However, my involvement with Samuel continued to complicate matters. Fast-forward to 2016, when I unexpectedly encountered Samuel at the bus station.

Nervously, he inquired about Funmilayo, and fearing his reaction, I denied any knowledge of her. But then, he revealed a photo of Funmilayo kissing someone else. It became evident that he had discovered my affair with her. At that moment, something shifted between us.

We moved closer, sharing laughter and tears, as Samuel reminded me of our unwavering support for each other through countless challenges.In the quiet moments that followed, a new feeling began to blossom within our shared bond. It was a mixture of familiarity, warmth, and genuine affection.

My heart, once a canvas of past loves, now painted a new colour—one that I couldn’t quite define. It blended the comfort of old friendship and love with the excitement of newfound affection, and it pointed unmistakably towards Samuel.

The realisation was both startling and beautiful. I had never considered that our bisexuality could lead us to love someone who had been by our side all along. Love, it seemed, was full of surprises.However, our journey took an unexpected turn when we decided to seek privacy in a hotel in Lagos.

Unknowingly to us, someone had reported our same-sex relationship to the authorities, and the police surrounded the hotel.

In a desperate attempt to avoid arrest, I managed to escape through a window, while Samuel was unfortunately shot in the leg. He was immediately rushed to the hospital for medical attention. I had a gay relationship with Samuel, who later reported him to the police.

The police declared me wanted, so I fled to Osun State and later got married to Oluwadamilola. Samuel still came after us and threatened us with a firearm, so I took Oluwadamilola back to her family and then I applied for a Canadian visa.

My visa was approved, that was how I escaped from my friend that almost ruined my life.