Blinded by love: Deji’s journey through heartbreak, financial ruin
By Suliah Lawal
Ayodeji, a young, rich, and handsome guy, had just finished secondary school and was preparing to write his IJMB at Ilorin. He was lucky to meet a girl he fell in love with, Rasheedah.
She was young and beautiful but wasn’t financially stable. Deji was living happily with his friends until Rasheedah told him to rent his own apartment so they could have privacy.
Deji, who was head over heels for his girlfriend and was financially stable, didn’t object but gave in. They started living like a couple, as she wanted; she was caring, loving, and supportive.
At first, she wasn’t asking him for money, but as time went on, she started asking for it, knowing how frequently he got paid. Ayodeji got tired of her asking, so he gave her his credit card to use whenever she needed something.
Greedy Rasheedah started spending lavishly, buying wigs, chocolates, and expensive things for herself; it didn’t worry Deji because he knew the money would get replaced. They both got admission into the same university, same level but different courses; Rasheedah couldn’t complete her fees, so Deji did it for her.
They started living separately for a while, then she packed her bags and moved into his apartment.
The same life began to happen as the only means of income for Deji started to crash; his paying clients went broke, affecting Deji. His girlfriend started taking loans on his behalf so she could spend without caring about how he would pay them back. Life turned harder for Deji daily, and he found joy in smoking.
Meanwhile, Rasheedah, who didn’t go out before, started going out frequently and behaving weirdly. She had already gotten herself a final-year lover, whom she claimed was a friend when Deji confronted her; she came home late from class, went out anytime she wanted, and didn’t even cook anymore.
Deji, who had just finished smoking, went out to get things he needed but was unfortunately caught by the police for wearing an army hoodie.
He was arrested but got released after paying a huge amount of money. Rasheedah didn’t bother to check on him during this tough time but rather blamed him for smoking.
Deji started having weird feelings about her and began to doubt her love, so he paid a friend of hers to watch over him. In the long run, he got evidence and felt hurt.
Deji confronted her, and they had a huge argument over it; during the process, Deji slapped her, and her phone fell and spoilt. She left for her hostel that night.
Rasheedah’s other boyfriend, who was a cultist but still in love with her, went to Deji’s house to get back at him, unaware that Deji had already told his drug dealer, who was a cultist, that people were coming for him.
They confronted each other, but Rasheedah’s boyfriend was humiliated because he wasn’t a registered member yet.
That same day, at the same spot, Rasheedah packed her bags and left Deji’s apartment, saying she had been using him for two years. The statement broke Deji, and he cried to his friends.
Things got worse for Deji; he wanted to get back at Rasheedah, but later left her due to the love he still had for her. Life wasn’t unfair to him; he couldn’t continue schooling, so he had to leave and get back on his feet again.
