Teens are more stressed and anxious than in the past, yet their parents will send many off to college with little thought about the mental health issues they might face while there, according to a new WebMD/Medscape survey in collaboration with JED.
The survey, “Preparing for College: The Mental Health Gap,” includes more than 500 health care professionals, along with 700 parents and guardians of high school students planning to attend college or other post-secondary school, and of students already in their first year.
Among health care professionals surveyed, a strong majority said they had seen more mental health issues among teens in the past 5 years:
86% said the teens have had more anxiety and stress.
81% saw more anxiety disorders.
70% reported seeing more mood disorders such as depression and bipolar disorder.
Those who answered the survey include 202 pediatricians and 201 psychologists/psychiatrists.
Parents who also took the survey confirm their kids are having problems. Nearly half (45%) said their child has been diagnosed or treated for a mental health issue, learning disorder, or substance abuse problem. And 51% say their child has seen a therapist.
Yet only 17% of parents considered access to on-campus counseling and mental health services when rating schools for their teenager. Even among parents of teens with anxiety, stress, or a mood disorder, only 28% said they had considered mental health services while choosing a school.
When it comes to talking to their children about mental health issues, about half of parents — 52% — mentioned anxiety and 43% discussed depression. The percentage is higher in parents whose teen had been diagnosed with a mental health disorder: 71% of parents discussed possible anxiety, and 64% talked about depression.
“If your child is already in therapy, don’t assume it’s going to go away once they start school. Assume the opposite,” says Cora Collette Breuner, MD, a professor of pediatrics and adolescent medicine at Seattle Children’s Hospital and the University of Washington.
Parents of teens without a diagnosed mental health condition started these discussions at a lower percentage: 31% talked about depression and 42% about anxiety.
This survey stresses the need for all parents — not just those whose kids have problems — to discuss mental health concerns, experts say.
“It’s going to touch your family’s life, and certainly your child’s life in one way or another,” says Stephanie Pinder-Amaker, PhD, director of the College Mental Health Program at McLean Hospital. “It does so much to decrease stigma and fear and anxiety just to talk about these issues.”
A Growing Problem
Several surveys show there are more mental health problems among teens. Experts interviewed said it isn’t clear whether these numbers reflect a surge in mental health problems or just more openness by young people to talk about them.
Whatever the cause, it’s critical for parents and doctors to focus on kids’ emotional well-being years before college. About 75% of all mental health conditions start by age 24. College falls right in the middle of this vulnerable time.
“The college years, developmentally, happen to coincide with the peak period of onset of all psychiatric illnesses. College presents … sort of a perfect storm. You not only have a young person entering the stage where they’re most likely to develop a mental health issue, but you also have a significant amount of stress,” says Pinder-Amaker, who’s also a psychology instructor at Harvard Medical School.
She added that there is more of a demand for mental health services on college campuses.
A 2017 report by the Center for Collegiate Mental Health found that the demand has risen steadily over the past 7 years. Among students seeking counseling, the most common conditions were anxiety and depression.
School Choice: What Drives the Decision
Parents surveyed said the top 5 things that influenced school choice were:
Distance from home: 51%
Academic reputation: 50%
Learning support services: 35%
Culture/fit of school: 33%
Access to counseling and mental health services ranked ninth.
Jess P. Shatkin, MD, a professor in the departments of child and adolescent psychiatry and pediatrics at NYU Langone Health, said it’s not surprising that mental health services are not high on a parent’s priority list when choosing a college.
“I don’t think it’s sensible for the parent of the average kid to say mental health services is a primary issue when looking at a school,” he said.
Still, experts say these services need to rank higher on parents’ priority list.
Breuner says parents usually don’t ask her about college mental health services until their child is just about to leave.
“I’m always shocked. Why am I hearing this when you’re getting ready to put your child on a plane or a bus? Why didn’t you do this last year, when you were filling out the application?” she says.
Sandy Hutchens said she never considered on-campus services for her daughter, Gracie, who is on medication to treat ADHD. “We were still learning how to deal with and manage it. When it came time for her to apply and figure out where she wanted to go, we just made it about where she wanted to go,” she says.
Gracie ended up at Utah State University, more than 2,200 miles from their home in Wilmington, NC. On her own, she stopped taking her medication, and her grades fell. Hutchens says she won’t make the same mistakes when her younger daughter, Maggie — who has anxiety — joins her sister at Utah State next year. “I will go to the health center. I will meet face-to-face with the doctors there. I will do better than I did with Gracie.”
While parents focus on academics, untreated depression and other mental health issues can take a toll on kids’ college performance, leading to a lower GPA and a higher chance of dropping out, research finds. Such problems can also raise the chance of dangerous behaviors like drug and alcohol use and suicide, which is one of the leading causes of death in this age group.
Why Mental Health Services Aren’t on Parents’ Radar
An estimated 1 in 5 teens are living with a mental health condition. Yet because teens often bottle up their feelings, parents may have no idea what emotions are simmering under the surface unless they bring up the issue.
“If you don’t ask, you don’t find out,” says David Hill, MD, a pediatrician at KidzCare Pediatrics in Wilmington, NC. “Sometimes you have signs and symptoms, but those can look a lot like being a normal teenager.”
How do you ask teens about their mental state? Hill says the conversation is difficult to start. He suggests that you offer a “no freak-out promise.” “Whatever you tell me, I promise not to freak out. I may not be happy about it, but I’m not going to lose it,” he says. “One of the reasons kids clam up is because they’re afraid we’re going to freak out.”
Use open-ended questions so your child has to respond with more than one-word answers. “What’s the best thing that happened to you today? What’s the worst thing that happened to you today? What are you looking forward to? I think that’s a big red flag, when a child can’t tell you one thing they’re looking forward to,”